The way in which I choose my identity is by staying true to myself in my beliefs and thoughts, I choose my identity and do not follow what others expect me to follow simply because visually I am a woman so therefore I will be a wife and have kids. I choose my identity by believing in myself and doing what makes me comfortable. I do not want to follow the traditional roles that limit many people and are toxic in many cultures. The way it was chosen for me is that when I was younger other girls would make me feel less feminine if I dressed differently than the typical girly dresses or skirts, and I would see this in television too when the tomboy gets the makeover and now the boys pay attention to her. Another way is that men will tell me I will have to tend to both kids and a husband while the husband does nothing because “he is the breadwinner” which ultimately made me refuse to learn to cook as a way to rebel against that ideology because I feared becoming that stereotype that I often see around me. I noticed that the trend in who gets to decide the aspects are men because they’ve been in a spot of privilege since the beginning of time. I think all of these behaviors have been directed time and time again by many different cultures and social statuses by men because it can be hard to escape a behavior that is so accepted in society that favors one side more than the others.